This dome-shaped tree, it is said, is responsible for many "until death do us part" vows. Allegedly, over 100 weddings have taken place directly because of this now legendary plant. And if that sounds strange, then listen to this: the tree itself got married in 2009! So, what's going on here? How does this old oak help people find love?
The tree, lovingly referred to by locals as the "Bridegroom's Oak," has a very special feature. Hidden in its ancient trunk is a hole, a kind of secret compartment, where hopeful romantics can place a letter with their personal information, hoping for a love connection. Curious individuals can also browse through the other letters hidden in the tree, and if they find a note that sparks their interest or curiosity, they can make contact.
The MailmanPeople can visit the tree itself to place their letter in the hollow, but if they live far away, they can send their letter by mail. A mailman then delivers it to the tree; for two decades, that mailman was Karl-Heinz Martens. His daily routine involved traveling through the northern German city of Eutin, delivering mail along the way, and eventually making his way through the forest to reach this unique tree.
With a special key in hand, Karl-Heinz unlocked a hidden gate that led deep into the woods. There, he parked his vehicle and began a leisurely walk among the trees. His only mission on these trips? Delivering envelopes filled with hope and longing to the famous Bridegroom's Oak.
The Single LifeIn 2019, The Atlantic magazine wrote a story about the Bridegroom's Oak and the mailman who had been delivering letters to it for so long. In the article, the magazine quoted something Karl-Heinz had once said to the media.
He recounted with a laugh, "It became a kind of spectacle. Locals followed my route and eagerly awaited my arrival. It seemed almost fantastical that a mailman was actually making deliveries to an old tree. The fascination that Karl-Heinz's visits and the Bridegroom's Oak exuded was undeniable. However, Karl-Heinz himself seemed untouched by the romance that the tree granted to so many others for a long time.
Love Not in the PictureWhen Karl-Heinz started delivering letters to the Bridegroom's Oak, it was 1984, and his home country of Germany was still divided into East and West; the tree was located on the western side of the border.
Life had given Karl-Heinz a break, especially when it came to love, after his marriage fell apart. The idea of romance had lost its luster in his eyes. He confided in The Atlantic, expressing a certain weariness toward the idea of dating. "At the time," he mused, "I was fed up with romantic endeavors." It seemed like he just wanted to focus on his postal duties and lead a peaceful life.
Communicating with the Other SideSometimes, Karl-Heinz found his deliveries to the tree somewhat burdensome. He had many other addresses on his route, and the fact that the oak was located in a forest took him away from his other stops. But although it was challenging at times, it was a rewarding endeavor. And not just because the tree helped people find love.
In an open interview with the BBC in 2018, Karl-Heinz recalled, "Before reunification in 1990, it was common for people from East Germany who had no contacts in the West to make contact through the tree. Their letters were full of curiosity about the cars we drove or the music that defined our lives. I often felt the urge to respond to bridge that gap, but my superiors advised against it."
But of course, the main appeal of the tree lay in its apparent matchmaking ability. There was something about this idea that truly resonated with people, which perhaps shouldn't come as too much of a surprise. After all, we are talking about a tree in a German forest.
Think about it. In an area rich in old folk tales and captivating stories, the existence of a living tree with the fabled power to weave romantic tales is incredibly enticing. It feels as though a fairytale has stepped into the real world, enchanting all who approach.
Once upon a time...As part of his job as a local mailman, Karl-Heinz actually had to become a tour guide. When tourists visiting the area encountered him and asked about the tree, he felt obligated to enlighten them. So he did, telling a particular version of events.
Karl-Heinz often began his tale with the words, "In the history books, there once lived a prince's son. Left behind and forgotten deep in this woods, he remained unnoticed until fate intervened and a breathtaking maiden rescued him. In gratitude, the prince planted a seed as a symbol of his deep appreciation. That seed grew against all odds to become what we now revere as the Bridegroom's Oak."
When Wilhelm was KaiserBut as Karl-Heinz admitted to The Atlantic, that's the abridged version. The longer version is, as it turns out, somewhat more complicated than the condensed story he had been telling visitors. For the other narrative, we must think back to the time of Kaiser Wilhelm II.
Wilhelm II, the last crowned Emperor of Germany and revered King of Prussia, ruled over the lands between the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Hence, it is fascinating to consider that the romantic stories surrounding the Bridegroom's Oak have their roots in tales that go back over a hundred years.
A Means of CommunicationEarly in Wilhelm's reign, a girl fell in love with a young chocolate maker. Her father, a forester, strongly disagreed with his daughter's choice of partner. He stood in the way of their relationship, forcing the boy and girl to meet in secret.
In a time when the convenience of technology was still a distant dream, one wonders how two young souls entrapped in the embrace of love communicated to arrange clandestine encounters. Their solution was ingeniously simple. Near the girl's apartment stood a majestic tree with a natural cave in its trunk. They utilized this hidden niche to exchange secret notes and keep their romance alive.
Word SpreadsOver time, however, the girl's father became more lenient. In the end, the young lovers were able to marry; their wedding took place in the summer of 1891. Appropriately, the ceremony was held at the foot of the tree that had served the happy couple so well in their time of need.
As the word of this enchanting story spread like wildfire, the tree's reputation as a messenger of romance grew exponentially. Soon, the hollow trunk of the Bridegroom's Oak was filled with letters from singles who came to it in the hopes of finding a connection, just like the original couple had.
A Popular Matchmaking ServiceThe tree acquired a new name that reflected its connection to assisting in weddings. It was called the Bridegroom's Oak. More and more people, unsuccessful in finding a partner through more traditional methods, attempted to leave a letter for the tree, hoping that the perfect person would take it, read it, and make contact.
By 1927, it became clear that this tree was not just a local legend but a beacon for love seekers everywhere. In recognition of its significance, the local post office gave it its own address. This allowed hopeful romantics from far-flung corners to send their heartfelt messages to this unique destination.
The post office also facilitated visiting the tree in person. It installed a ladder to the hollow in the trunk, meaning that people could relatively easily climb up and down to reach the letters inside and leave their own. Anyone is free to look through the notes in the tree, but they must return them if they're not specifically interested.
Over time, curious rituals and practices developed around the Bridegroom's Oak. One of the stories told is the belief that a young woman who circles the tree three times during a full moon would become engaged within a year.
Many Relationships Are FormedIf that sounds a little far-fetched, it cannot be denied that some people have truly found love through this tree. The proof can be seen literally on its trunk! Because couples who found each other through writing letters and leaving them in the hollow returned to the oak and carved their names into the bark.
The countless stories of people finding their soulmates through letters to the tree are nothing short of magical. At the center of many of these stories was Karl-Heinz, the dedicated mailman who, although he didn't personally know these romantic seekers, played a crucial role in their love stories.
Claudia's StoryHere is a love story that Karl-Heinz witnessed. In 1988, a young nurse from East Germany sent a letter to the tree. Her name was Claudia, and she was 19 years old. She spent a lot of time alone, secretly watching TV productions from the other side of the border. It was through one such West German program that she heard about the Bridegroom's Oak.
Claudia, a young woman trapped in loneliness, could not resist the almost mystical matchmaking ability of the tree. When a TV show mentioned the actual address of this legendary tree, she hastily wrote it down, a spark of hope ignited in her heart.
An Obstacle in the WayClaudia wrote a letter and sent it to the address provided by the TV show. Eventually, Karl-Heinz delivered it to the hollow of the tree. The letter was then discovered by a man named Friedrich, who lived in West Germany and had not had much luck in relationships.
While reading Claudia's heartfelt words, he felt an inexplicable connection. Perhaps it was her elegant handwriting or the emotions she conveyed, but he was drawn to her. Their letters crossed paths with increasing frequency, deepening their relationship. However, a tangible barrier loomed large between them—the formidable divide between East and West Germany.
Crossing the BorderWell, eventually Friedrich couldn't bear it any longer. He had to meet Claudia in person. So he bought a ticket and made his way to the border. There, he encountered a checkpoint where guards questioned him. He informed them that he planned to visit his cousin who lived on the other side.
Friedrich's clever ruse paid off and allowed him to travel to the East and finally meet the woman who had captured his heart through her letters. Their connection was palpable, and it didn't take long for them to envision a shared future. However, geopolitics delayed their union. But when the walls of separation fell, and Germany was reunited, nothing held them back. In 1990, against the backdrop of newfound freedom, they exchanged their wedding vows.
Karl-Heinz was a central figure in this captivating love story, in which the Bridegroom's Oak had acted as a matchmaker countless times. In a detailed conversation with The Atlantic, he recounted the story of a particular gentleman who came to the region seeking peace and good health. This man had chosen a coastal resort for his therapeutic stay. However, the unpredictable coastal climate, which could occasionally be quite chilly, led him further inland. This journey led him to the enchanting Bridegroom's Oak.
As he unfolded the letter, he was astonished to find that it was written by a woman who lived just a stone's throw away from his home in Dortmund. Whether it was pure coincidence or fate at play, their shared ending was the same—a beautiful wedding and a life together.
Times ChangeWhile Karl-Heinz played a central role in numerous love stories that originated from the Bridegroom's Oak, he always remained a silent observer and never attended the subsequent weddings. It never seemed to bother him; instead, he continued on his path in life, aging with grace. At the same time, the world around him underwent significant changes, especially as Germany made great strides towards national unification.
To protect the tree and manage the influx of visitors, a protective fence was erected around its trunk. This meant that visitors could no longer drive directly to the tree but had to reach it on foot. The only exception to this rule was the ever-loyal mailman Karl-Heinz, who was granted a special key to ensure unrestricted access for his delivery van.
In the blink of an eyeOver the years, the constant testimonies of couples brought together by the Bridegroom's Oak left a lasting impression on Karl-Heinz. A dormant desire for companionship awakened within him once again. This newfound interest prompted him to venture into the world of dating. While he went on several dates, none led to anything significant. So, his life continued in its usual rhythm.
To protect the tree and manage the influx of visitors, a protective fence was erected around its trunk. This meant that visitors could no longer drive directly to the tree but had to reach it on foot. The only exception to this rule was the ever-loyal mailman Karl-Heinz, who was granted a special key to ensure unrestricted access for his delivery van.
"I'm going to change that!"During one of his routine visits to the tree, Karl-Heinz stumbled upon a letter. To his surprise, it was addressed to him. The sender was Renate, a hardworking middle-aged woman who had gone through a painful divorce. She often watched television and happened to learn about the Bridegroom's Oak through a TV report. This report also featured an interview with Karl-Heinz.
In a detailed interview with the renowned German newspaper FAS, Renate vividly recalled the very first moment her eyes fell upon the image of the mailman on her television screen. "From the moment I saw him, an inexplicable feeling rushed through me, almost as if an immediate connection had been established," she excitedly explained. As she listened more closely, her heart involuntarily skipped a beat when she heard Karl-Heinz openly discussing his single status. With a hint of humor and disbelief, she jokingly told the interviewer how she turned to her son sitting right next to her and remarked, "We can't let this go on like this. We have to intervene!"
Such a bold step was uncharacteristic for Renate, but she felt deeply inspired to put her feelings into writing. In her clear and direct message, she expressed a genuine interest in getting to know Karl-Heinz. Her exact words were "I want to get to know you!" - a simple but profound expression that deeply touched him.
Meanwhile, the curiosity to meet this mysterious stranger became increasingly irresistible for Karl-Heinz. Instead of choosing the traditional path of letter-writing, he opted for the direct route and picked up the phone. Their subsequent conversations were not mere polite exchanges; they were long, intimate sessions where time seemed to stand still. Reflecting on those early days, Karl-Heinz jokingly remarked, "Let's just say my monthly phone bill skyrocketed!"
The Time ComesDuring their correspondence, Karl-Heinz decided to share a personal touch - a photo of his beloved dog. This gesture not only endeared Renate to Karl-Heinz but also to his lovable pet. Anticipation grew, and soon plans were made for their eagerly awaited meeting.
Although he was eager to meet, Karl-Heinz proceeded with caution. He constantly reminded himself to remain calm and assured his own heart that if the personal meeting didn't go well for any reason, he could always say goodbye and continue on his own path. With this pragmatic mindset, he packed a few necessary things, loaded his loyal dog into the car, and embarked on the adventure.
Tracking Her Down in a Big CityThe duo chose Renate's vibrant hometown, Saarbrücken, as their meeting point. In an interview with The Atlantic, Karl-Heinz casually mentioned, "I didn't know the city, so she had to guide me. After all, that was a time before smartphones were everywhere."
Luck was on their side because Renate's precise instructions proved to be flawless. As she led him to a specific parking lot, she was already there, eagerly awaiting his arrival. One might have expected some initial shyness given their unfamiliarity, but to their pleasant surprise, any initial hesitation quickly faded away. The palpable chemistry between them was undeniable, and the presence of Karl-Heinz's dog, to whom Renate immediately formed an affectionate bond, only strengthened their connection.
The Wedding of the YearFrom the very beginning, their relationship progressed at a breathtaking pace. On their first date, Karl-Heinz boldly introduced Renate to his mother. This rapid development continued as Renate moved in with Karl-Heinz shortly after.
As the days turned into weeks and the weeks turned into months, the initial whirlwind romance settled into a comfortable rhythm. It was only a matter of time before the conversation turned to lifelong commitment. After basking in each other's company for a few years, the couple decided to seal their relationship in 1994. Their wedding, which took place under the branches of the famous Bridegroom's Oak, was a sensational event described by the local press as the wedding of the year.
The legendary tree, the Bridegroom's Oak, eventually found its way into the heart of long-time bachelor Karl-Heinz. Under its branches, he found love, just like the stories of countless others who were united by its magic.
As a tribute to the legendary matchmaking power of the Bridegroom's Oak, a special ceremony was organized. The oak was symbolically married to a renowned chestnut tree near Düsseldorf. This special chestnut tree was no ordinary tree; it had a mailing address just like the oak. However, the marital bliss of the two trees was short-lived. The chestnut tree, plagued by excessive fungal growth, tragically had to be cut down in 2015.
There are still plenty of trees in the forestWhile it may sound eccentric for two trees to exchange wedding vows, it embodied the deep admiration and gratitude that countless couples felt for the Bridegroom's Oak.
Despite this setback, many romantics and tree enthusiasts remain hopeful. They believe that the now lonely Bridegroom's Oak may find another suitable tree companion. In fact, in distant countries like South Africa and Australia, there are other trees that have their own unique mailing addresses. Perhaps one of them could be the next partner for the revered oak?
Age takes its tollBut as the saying goes, nothing lasts forever. The Bridegroom's Oak, which had witnessed countless seasons, showed signs of aging. It sadly fell victim to a fungal infection, requiring significant pruning to prevent the deterioration of the disease.
Tragically, around the same time the oak displayed signs of a fungal infection, Karl-Heinz suffered a devastating blow. The diligent postman who had delivered love letters and messages of hope for years received a bleak diagnosis - he was diagnosed with leukemia.
A special connectionIn 2018, Karl-Heinz, in conversation with the BBC, drew parallels between his own health and that of the tree, remarking, "When I started visiting here, the tree exuded vitality and robustness. But like the tree, I am also marked by time and health issues. This shared vulnerability, I believe, has forged a special connection between us."
As if fate had not been cruel enough, Renate was diagnosed with lung cancer. Despite brave efforts and treatments, the disease progressed relentlessly. The year 2019 marked a poignant end to their love story as Karl-Heinz bid farewell to his beloved wife after a beautiful 24-year journey together. Heartbreaking as it was, her funeral took place on Valentine's Day, a day dedicated to love.
It's worth a try.Renate's death was deeply heart-wrenching for Karl-Heinz. Yet, in the face of this profound loss, he found solace in the beautiful memories they had created in nearly 25 years of marital bliss. The once love-deprived Karl-Heinz had found his soulmate in Renate, a gift bestowed upon him by the tree to whom he delivered countless letters - the Bridegroom's Oak.
Today, the majestic tree still stands proudly in the same green forest, its mighty branches witnessing the passage of time. Though showing signs of age and wear, the Bridegroom's Oak continues to receive letters from those seeking a deep connection. For people disillusioned by the fleeting nature of modern dating apps and yearning for something deeper, perhaps sending a heartfelt letter to this ancient tree could hold the key. After all, it has played Cupid successfully for countless souls over the years.